She's Just Not That Into You

Well, I feel terrible. I had to let Mr. Nice Guy move on. I just wasn't being fair to him. I was very honest with him about not feeling the same way. I continued to go out with him anyway. And he fell in love with me. When he gave me the mushy Valentine's Day love poem though, I just couldn't take it anymore. It made me uncomfortable since I don't feel the same way about him. And so, sadly, I had to tell him I cannot continue to see him knowing that he feels that way about me. And part of me wishes I could learn to love such a kind, caring guy. He just didn't float my boat. I need a more manly man, someone who is strong and charismatic. And he just wasn't. And I really would like to find a guy who is passionate about not only me, but about his job, and other things, too. He definitely was not. And the sex, well, definitely not exciting to me. I think once you have experienced really great sex, it is hard to go back to mediocre, ho-hum romps in the covers. So, now I am dateless again. I feel like I need to take a major break from dating. I guess its hard to meet someone when you spend most of your time looking for a job. I do have hope that things will get better. I need to believe that this is just a low on the roller coaster of life and that the highs are right around the next curve.

I'm Not Gonna Write You a Love Song

What a slap in the face! I went out with Dane (college friend, another Mr. Executive) last week and we had a good time again (or so I thought). It was our third night out together, and, although, I am not thinking long term with him, I did enjoy another night of cavorting and carefree kisses under the covers. So, here it is: Valentine's weekend, and I haven't heard a word from him. I don't expect much, mind you, but a call or email would be nice. So, I shot him an email "Hope your week is going well." And I get a call back. He asks if I have my son this weekend. I take that as "Do you want to go out?" So, I tell him I don't have my son Saturday night (which is true, although I have not made any plans yet - pathetic, I know). He asks if I would like to do some work for his company to make some extra cash. What!? Work - on Saturday night, which happens to be Valentine's night - I don't think so. I mean, I know I need a job, but really! Does he really think I am that desperate for money? And, is he just going to ignore the fact that we have been sleeping together and it is Valentine's weekend?! So, I told him I don't like the idea of working a Saturday night, but that I would get back to him if I could find someone to watch my son during the day. But really, I have no desire to go work at his office on Valentine's Day. How lousy did that make me feel? I think I should just blow him off and shoot him another email that says I can't do it. Then, I should just go out with Mr. Nice Guy, who, of course, has been asking me out for weeks. What would you do?

The Path Not Taken

I am moving in a couple of months, so I have been going through my things and getting rid of stuff I don't need anymore. I am one of those people that has kept all kinds of things from my youth - old diaries, pictures, notes from friends, etc. I came across some old photos of me from my acting days. I was young, beautiful, and had stars in my eyes, hope for the future, belief in myself. What happened to that young woman? I wish I could go back and be her again. I wish I could make different choices than I made... different choices that would have led me to a different place than I am at today. I made so many choices that led me to this place, this person that I am today. I am lost now. I somehow got off my path. How do I get back on? I am going to be 37 next week. I am an out of work, lonely single mom. I never saw myself in this place. It's like I wandered off course. I don't know where I am supposed to be, but I know this place does not feel right. I want to find my way back and get on the right path, the path not taken. I am truly sad about my life. I want to have hope, to have belief in myself, to have passion and motivation. I keep searching, spinning, like a hamster in a wheel. I am now that woman who goes out into the world every day with a smile, pretending that everything is okay. What can I do to be that woman who truly believes it? How do I find the woman I am supposed to be?

Looking for Love in all the wrong places

I want to feel that kind of love that sweeps you off your feet, that devastating feeling that you cannot possibly live without someone, that love that you see in the movies that makes me swoon with envy. This is what everyone wants, right? And the sad fact of the matter is that I am nowhere near able to open my heart to such a love and there is no one is sight that will cause such an effect on me. I feel expendable and useless and unmotivated, mostly because of my endless quest to find a job. If one doesn't love herself how can one find love. I certainly don't love my life or myself much lately. I have been trying to make the best of lousy circumstances, and I have been doing my best to find a job, to no avail. And the men I have been meeting...well, lets just say they aren't men that I can see myself with long term..Let's see there was the guy whose wife had a restraining order on him, and the guy who was in prison for 10 years for drug smuggling, and, of course, the college friend... well, he is fun, but I have come to realize that it is just a rebellious act on my part because I know we aren't right for each other and no one I know would approve. So, now what. I will just continue to try to be the best I can be. I will continue to search for passion, motivation and a commitment to be a better person. Because, right now, that is all I know to do.